Confidence. It’s a powerful word and an even more powerful feeling. Can you remember a time in your life when you felt confident? A time when you felt unstoppable… on top of the world? Now imagine you could feel that way more often. What impact would that have on your health and well-being, your career, your relationships?
Not only does being confident feel good, it helps you seize potential opportunities, take more chances and make that big change or take the next step in your life and career. Life is crazy, busy and beautiful. Figuring out how to be more confident is just part of the journey.
The great news is, there are steps to building confidence that you can take wherever – and whenever you feel you’re lacking it. Often, it’s already within you and you just need a few strategies to uncover it – and I’m going to reveal these strategies to you.
Why some people lack confidence
Lack of confidence can stem from many places.
Perhaps, growing up, your parents said a certain career was outside your reach and you could ‘never do that’. Or maybe you have a belief system that says ‘I could never start my own business, I’m not entrepreneurial’.
Perhaps you had a bad experience which opened the door for self-doubt to creep in. Or maybe your inner self-critic is telling you ‘you can’t’ or ‘you’re not good enough’. Maybe (ok, likely) you’re comparing yourself to someone else – a friend, colleague or spouse.
Or perhaps you feel there is something missing in your life – a relationship, the dream job, kids, a degree or title.
In my work with thousands of clients, it seems most (if not all) of us struggle with confidence in some area, or at some point in our lives. Whether that be confidence in our appearance, abilities, relationships, careers, decision making, and social situations.
We all have crises of confidence. Times we are self-conscious and moments of self-doubt. And, if your lack of confidence is keeping you in a bad job or poor relationship — or keeping you from moving forward in your life or career, you’re not alone.
What makes confident people different from others
Confident people believe in themselves and have a positive mindset. People lack confidence feel insecure about themselves and their decisions.
Let’s take a look at this infographic which illustrates the differences between a confident person and an insecure person:
How to be more confident (a step-by-step guide)
So, how can you be more confident? Here’s your complete, step-by-step guide:
1. Be specific
First things first, let’s get specific.
In order to tame the demon, you’ve got to name the demon. Where do you lack confidence? When do you feel self-doubt creeping in? Where do you feel your skills or abilities are limiting you? Where would you like to have more confidence?
Once you get specific, it won’t feel so overwhelming as you’ll have something tangible to tackle.
Maybe you want the confidence to go out on your own and start a new business? Or maybe you’d like to go back to school to get the degree you’ve always wanted? Perhaps you’d like the confidence to go on an adventure or take a trip you’ve been thinking about for some time.
Take a moment now, identify and put into a complete statement: Where do you specifically want to have more confidence?
2. Uncover what gives you confidence
This is personal, so it will vary from person to person. There’s no one size fits all approach to confidence and what works for one, won’t always work for another.
How can you figure out what gives you confidence? Think about a couple times in your life when you felt most confident.
Now, think about what was it about those times that made you feel so empowered.
Was it the environment you were in? Something you were doing? A feeling you had? The more you get clear about this for yourself, the easier it will be to tap into when you need it.
3. Be true to you
One of the surest ways to lose confidence is try to be someone else. One of the best ways to build your confidence? Be true to yourself.
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