Courteney Cox has a lot of thoughts on raising kids today.
The 53-year-old actress and her ex-husband David Arquette have a 13-year-old named Coco. In an interview with New Beauty, Cox opened up about motherhood, miscarriages and wanting to have another kid.
In the interview, Cox said Coco likes to experiment with makeup in her spare time, though she can only wear mascara at school.
“I know some people think I should rein her in with the makeup, but it’s a form of self-expression. As long as she’s not sexualizing herself, it’s really just what makes her feel good,” she said, adding she admittedly sometimes has concerns about the length of her daughter’s shorts. “But…
People are having children later in life nowadays. They’re delaying marriage too. Millennials need to gain more education and spend a longer time in the workforce building up their career, in order to afford a wedding and children. So how is this shift affecting the next generation and society as a whole?
Now, studies are turning towards older fathers. New research has shown that children born of a father over age 35 have a higher risk of autism, schizophrenia, or a birth defect. One study found that children born to dads over age 40 may even risk lower scholastic achievement.
Though slight, over an entire population, the impact could be significant. So much so, that one UK bioethicist has proposed a program to encourage 18 year-old’s to bank their sperm, and have the National Health Service (NHS) pay for it. The results of this study show that if such a plan were enacted, officials might want to wait to collect until the man was a little bit older.
Older fatherhood may increase the risk of lower scholastic achievement. Getty Images.
A new study finds that an older father is the single most important factor in a child’s development of prosocial skills. This was independent of the mother’s age. The results of this study were published in the Journal of the American Academy of Child and…
You know your child is smart. She exhibits intelligence every day, and family friends have remarked about how bright she is. But when report card day comes it’s like someone is evaluating a different child. What happened on the way to school? Did she travel into an alternate universe?
At first as the bad grades start to emerge, you think your child will pull out of it. You just need to help her with the homework, help her understand the concepts better. Yet your attempts to help are like banging your head against a wall. The will to perform is just not there.
You’re not alone. Plenty of children and teens are underperformers. Child psychologist Dr. Sylvia Rimm 1says, “Underlying these children’s poor study habits, weak skills, disorganization, and defensiveness is a feeling of a lack of personal control over their educational success.” Some kids just don’t feel personally invested in getting good grades.
This is becoming a real problem because your child isn’t learning what it means to work hard and succeed at something. School is “boring,” the teachers “suck,” the other kids are “jerks.” You’re pulling teeth just to get her to finish and turn in assignments, and when test time comes, it seems like she’s tanking on purpose.
If your child doesn’t learn how to perform up to her potential in school, how will she be able fulfill that potential in real life?
The key is to connect your child’s educational goals to her life through strategy, affirmation, and rewards.
Introduce Values-Based Self-Affirmation
Stress is a huge factor for kids in school. You can remember what it’s like, but there’s nothing quite like being there. Values-based self-affirmation 2is a proven method of confronting stress and empowering your child to cope with it positively.
In multiple studies, African-American and Latino American students thought about and wrote about what was most important to them. These students face a lot of stress due to their minority status, and it causes them to underperform. They wrote about their values at critical times of stress during the school year—at the outset, before tests, and around holidays.
The students saw a 30 percent improvement in performance, and their grade-point averages were much higher than students who didn’t do values-affirmation assignments. This also worked for female college students in physics.
Brain scans 3 show that self-affirmation increases activity in the self-related and reward-related areas of the brain. Values affirmation also reduces cortisol response 4in students, effectively lowering stress levels and heart rate.
Sit down with your child when she’s feeling stressed out about school and ask her to write about what she values—her relationships, her interests, her passions. Ask her to write a little bit about how her values relate to her future. Do the exercise with her, and keep it up as the school year continues.
Any parent who travels knows that kids can make a travel experience more rewarding. Unfortunately, children can also make travel — including hotel accommodations — frighteningly expensive.
Adding children to your room can increase your bill significantly. This is especially true in all-inclusive resorts, where in many instances, adding two children under 12 years old to a reservation for two adults hikes the room rate by 50 percent. Hotels in larger U.S. cities and elsewhere in the world also charge extra for children.
Fortunately, a handful of family-friendly hotel chains and resorts allow children to stay for free.
Choice Hotels offers an array of lodging options around the country where kids under the age of 18 are welcomed with open arms. Think Comfort Inn, Sleep Inn, EconoLodge, and Rodeway Inn. These properties may not be the type you’ll want to select for a full-fledged vacation, but they can make a nice resting spot while you traverse the country or wait for your next-day flight.
According to Choice Hotels, kids stay free at select locations, provided you book at an eligible rate and don’t require any additional bedding. Also keep in mind that Choice Hotels are relatively inexpensive to begin with. It’s fairly easy to book one of their properties for less than $100 per night, which is a stellar deal whether you bring the kids along or not. (See also: Best Credit Cards for Hotel Rewards)
Holiday Inn Hotels & Resorts
While this isn’t commonly known, kids stay and eat free at all Holiday Inn Hotels and Holiday Inn Resorts. The rules vary at different properties, however. For example, kids 19 and under stay free in a shared room with their…
For all you parents that have children that pitch, do me a favor and run out and buy a heart guard shirt.for your child. My 11 year old Ryan wears one and it literally might have saved his life today. He was pitching and one of the hardest hit line drives came back and hit him straight dead center in the chest and the heart guard absorbed the hit. He was in a lot of pain but a lot better than the alternative. The other coach is an emt and said if he didn’t have that on that he might have been giving my son cpr. It was one of the scariest moments I ever had with my kids. We are at urgent care getting chest xrays now. Just some advice. $30 to…
is a constant question with no definite answer. Will this benefit my child? How will my choices and actions affect them in the future? The truth is, everyone is doing their best. And as a parent trying their best, you must understand that your child is also doing their best. In your efforts to push them to success, you may be hurting their self-esteem 1 in the process.
Expectation Isn’t Everything
All parents want what is best for their kids, and for them to have the opportunities that they didn’t. Or perhaps they just want them to follow in their footsteps to achieve the level of greatness that they have, or better. That’s why they choose to instill those values in them at an early age. To work hard, and to do well.
Children absolutely need that encouragement and that support to excel and flourish. But there definitely is a limit. When the need for success is taking a toll on your child’s happiness, 2 parents need to look at the bigger picture here. Their personal well-being is more important than achieving a perfect score. Parents’ needs for their flawless success could be blinding them from their deflating ego. While children need their parents’ support to thrive, they need it even more when they fail.
We all excel in different forms of intelligence.
This unnerving need to succeed, achieve, and win can have some very negative effects on a developing child’s well-being. They will harbor this supposed value throughout their lives, leaving them completely devastated in the event that they inevitably fail. College students especially struggle with this when they are unable to achieve sometimes unrealistic expectations.
This negative reaction to failure is an indication of low self-esteem, which is a learned reaction that deepens over time. To these kids, it is completely unacceptable and they are less of a person for making a mistake.
What these children never learned, because their parents may have not been aware, is that there are nine types of intelligence’s.3 Just because an individual does not excel in one area does not mean that they are unintelligent or incapable.
If your child is struggling academically, look at their strengths and weaknesses. Help them to excel in the areas that naturally “click” with them, and get them extra help where they might come up short. Consider your own…
One of the truest quotes I have ever heard goes something like “having a child is like having your heart pulled out of your body, then watching it try to navigate through life on its own”. In many ways, this is one of life’s toughest lessons, because children, especially younger ones, are so vulnerable and it is highly instinctive as a parent to want to protect them.1 It’s our greatest responsibility.
Parenthood can be a long, lonely road sometimes, where the best parent can question their abilities. However, typically wanting to protect a child is a sign of excellent parenting instincts. How to go about doing it is another matter.
The causes of family conflicts vary but their impact is disastrous.
1. Money issues
“One of the most common root issues for intense conflict within families is a lack of money. This is not always the case, though; sometimes people are drawn together in support when there is lack. However, many couples find the strain of trying to meet material needs to be overwhelming, and this can lead to initial tension between two parents.”
2. Family dynamics, illness or death
Another root issue is simple family dynamics where personalities become highly incompatible and attempts at conflict resolution fail because parents lack the ability and lose the desire to cope with their mate’s daily problems or issues. This can be triggered by the death of a close family member or child, or the onset of an illness in a partner that overwhelms and polarizes the other partner. Love is forgotten.
3. Substance or physical abuse
Families that suffer from alcohol and abuse issues face excruciatingly difficult situations on a daily basis, where fear, sometimes outright terror is the daily special.
Family conflicts cause long-term negative impact on children.
1. They feel frightened
Whatever the case, what follows is generally a sort of unraveling of something that is beloved and the safest thing they know, right before a child’s eyes. This can make a child feel frightened and insecure, or angry and resentful.
2. They feel guilty
They can start to blame themselves for the issues their parents are experiencing or they may start to exhibit escapist behavioral patterns such as drug or alcohol abuse.
3. They grow up in a dysfunctional family
In some cases, dysfunction can manifest in lax parenting by one or both parents, because they are preoccupied with their own issues.2
4. They do not know how to respect others
An inconsistency in parenting styles can lead to doubt and lack of clarity when it comes to exemplifying how to set and respect personal boundaries of other people – children have a tendency…
More than 1 in 6 students in the United States are unable to solve complex thinking problems, according to the 2012 PISA (Programme for International Student Assessment) test done on 15 year old children in 44 different countries1. Though American students did well overall, they consistently lagged behind their Asian counterparts. Unfortunately, kids who lack critical thinking problem solving skills face a higher risk of behavior and economical problems as adults.
Our modern society tends to squash essential critical thinking skills with mind-numbing television shows, video games and self-explanatory simple directions. It eliminates problem solving skills by readily spoon feeding easy accessible solutions. The death of vital critical thinking has become eminent.
Critical Thinking Comprises 4 Skills
Critical thinking skills help kids solve complex problems and think for themselves.2
Using the scientific method approach to thinking and eliminating emotion.
Learning how to find solutions backed by facts through research, using scientific data to help formulate answers.
The ability to perceive when their own bias from personal experience clouds their analysis of situations and learning to remove emotional judgments in their problem solving.
Thinking Outside the Box
Challenging rules and questioning answers. Having the capability to view the problem from different perspectives, review all of the facts, not just their own, and pick the most logical solution.
Our Education System Tends to Stifle Children’s Critical Thinking Skills
With their emphasis on memorization and fill in the bubble tests, our education system tends to stifle children’s critical thinking skills. They drill facts and support one correct-answer thinking. But the essential soft skills of critical thinking provide children with the building blocks of a better future in the real world. These necessary problem solving skills also help to develop self confidence.
Ways to Help Your Child Develop Critical Thinking Skills
You don’t need to hire a private instructor to help your child develop these essential soft skills. You can easily incorporate complex problem solving lessons into your daily life.
Ask Your Child”Why”
Remember how your kids drove you crazy when they went through the “why’ stage? They constantly bombarded you with ‘why.’ Why is the sky blue? Why is the ball round. Why? Why? Why? Now it’s time to turn the tables and ask them why. According to Marlana Martinelli at WeAreTeachers.com, asking ‘why five times helps kids build critical thinking skills to solve problems3.
Whether you have more than one child or you’re a first-time parent, babies are expensive and there’s no way around it. Building your family is probably a dream come true for you, but it doesn’t go without any complications.
Luckily, there are many tricks to make the transition a little easier for you to handle on a budget. Here’s a quick guide on how families can save money, especially with a newborn.
Avoid Eating Out
Eating out is more convenient than taking the time to prepare and cook a meal, but it is more expensive. When you have a newborn at home, you can’t afford to go without any essentials. Find as many sales as possible in your local grocery stores. Your days and nights may run together with a newborn in the home, but most of your money will remain in your wallet when you don’t eat out all the time.
Try making freezer meals a couple weeks ahead of your baby’s arrival. This way you’ll have the time to make good, healthy meals before the craziness of the baby takes over, and you’ll have fewer chances to give into the temptation of ordering out.
If you can, breastfeed your newborn as well. Your breastmilk is free and, according to studies, offers a lot more nutrition to help in your baby’s development.
Formula milk is expensive whether you buy a branded or generic formula. It can cost more than $100 each month which translates to $1,200 per year. You can keep this money in your pocket by breastfeeding your…